I can’t tell you how many emails I receive from people who feel like they have to “be nice” to me. It’s not about being nice to me, it’s about trying to be nice to me. It’s the belief that I have to act like a nice person, or respond to emails that try to be nice to me.
It’s pretty simple really. If someone emails you about wanting to be nice to you, it’s because they know you like to read emails. They know people like to like to be polite. That said, if someone emails you about something that is rude, it’s not because they are nice. They are probably not nice. They probably don’t even care about you.
If you reply to an email that is rude or makes you uncomfortable, then you are a jerk. That is what email is all about. These emails are not intended to be pleasant. They are intended to make you feel that your actions are in your power. The problem is that most people are not so nice.
I actually hate email. I always feel like I should respond. I feel like if I respond it is just going to be a re-iteration of the whole “you are a jerk” thing. But I don’t want to. I feel like I should respond. I don’t want to respond and then feel like an asshole. I don’t want to be an asshole.
I used to find it strange how much I hated emails. I wanted to say something but I didn’t. I just didn’t feel like I had to say anything. Then one day I had an email from a guy who was really nice. He was a software engineer at a firm that I worked at (I still work at one). He had a really weird theory about email and why I hated it.
Email is a terrible thing because it takes our message out. It takes our thoughts out to the world. But it is also good. We can send a message to our family, friends, and coworkers and it will be received.
That was it for my email-hate. I didnt even open it. I just hit send. I have an email address that I use for my social media account but it is a spam email account that I never check. I mean my email doesn’t get used that much.
Here’s the thing: If I send an email to my wife, my wife will only open it if I tell her to. If I tell her to, she will read it. If I tell her to not, she wont. This is a huge advantage to email. It lets us send messages to others and they will be opened only by us.
We have a habit of sending emails to our spouses when we receive something that we want them to respond to. People who don’t respond to emails are very likely to never read them. We also send emails to people we know we might be in trouble with, and if they don’t respond to them, we assume they don’t care.
We have a habit of sending emails to our spouses when we receive something that we want them to respond to. People who dont respond to emails are very likely to never read them. We also send emails to people we know we might be in trouble with, and if they dont respond to them we assume they dont care.