With these three levels of self-awareness, we can put our expectations and our habits on track. If our beliefs are self-aware, we can easily get to what we want to be when we see it.
The problem is, our expectations are often too strong. When we expect ourselves to be in a certain state or situation, we’ll be in that state or situation. If we expect ourselves to act with certain patterns of behavior or to be a certain kind of person, we’ll be like our own selves at that time.
For example, many of us expect ourselves to be a certain kind of person, such as a nice person or a person who loves to read. But in reality, we often act very different than we ever expected to act at a given moment. This makes our expectations of ourselves being nice very unrealistic.
How do you think we ended up acting differently from our expectations? The answer is, in the end, we don’t really know. We’ve just learned to respond to that which we think we should act like. For example, if we are expecting ourselves to be a nice person, we will often act differently than we expect. We may act nicer than we really want to. Or we may act nicer than we think we should.
The fact is that the majority of our thoughts and actions are on autopilot. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Our habits, routines, impulses, and reactions carry us through our lives so we don’t have to stop and think about it every time we wipe our ass or start a car.
We are, in fact, constantly bombarded by self-criticism, so the fact that we fail to see this can be painful to our psyche. It is because we are so distracted by our own self-worth that we fail to see the self-validation of others. The trick is to not let our own self-validation become our self-confidence. To act as if you are a nice person when in fact you are not. To be self-aware.
We must be reminded of our own self-consciousness regularly so that it doesn’t take over our lives. The fact that we are so distracted by our self-validation that we fail to see other people’s self-validation can be painful to our psyche. It is because we are so distracted by our own self-worth that we fail to see the self-validation of others. The trick is to not let our own self-validation become our self-confidence.
Now that we think about it, we’re all so self-conscious of our own opinions and judgments that I would think it would be impossible for anyone to be self-aware. We’re so self-conscious that it seems like we’re always judging ourselves and everyone around us. I think we usually lose sight of how we feel about ourselves. It’s not that we feel we are horrible people, it’s just that we are afraid of how others will see us.
It’s not just fear of judgment that makes us so self-conscious. We all have a deep fear of the “other”. Sometimes this is in the form of a person or group who has wronged us. But more often, this fear is about our own judgment and perception. We may be so self-conscious that we will make up stories about what others are saying, or we may just feel that our judgments are wrong.
It’s something that can be as simple as an offhand comment from a stranger to someone you don’t know. You may not even have a clue that you’re doing things that make you the kind of person you shouldn’t be, but you can’t help it.